Can't Control


In life, there are things we can’t control. We can’t control where we are born, what people think of us, people’s actions about us, the weather or even traffic! 

See we will be faced every day with things we can’t control and there is nothing we can do about it. However, there are also things we can control. We can control what we eat, we can control who we hang out with, we can control what clothes we wear, we can control what plans we make. You see there are things we can and cannot control in life. 

When I was planning this shoot, I didn’t know how it would turn out or even if it would work. I couldn’t control the sparklers, or the streamers or which way the bubbles went, but I could control how I was going to shoot the images, or I could control where we would stand or how I would want my model to stand during this shoot. I could control something, but I couldn’t control other things. I could have gotten frustrated or annoyed because of the wind or the bubbles or the lighter, but I could control how I acted. Calm, collected, inspired. 


You see we face things we can’t control but we have the ability to control how we act. 

Another situation: I was with a model driving to our location, and we hit a road block: 2 hrs of traffic. A track went up in flames that morning and we were stuck in traffic for 2 long hours. I could have gotten mad or frustrated and taking it out on the model or the people around me, or I could have acted calm, make the situation more fun which I did. We got to our location 2 hours later and we created some amazing images. 

How we respond to situations will determine our actions, emotions and even affect those around us. We can either lighten the mood by playing music and having fun or getting angry and ruining everyone’s day. 

We can control our breath, we can control how we look, we can control how we act around others, we can control our attitude, our speech, our actions. We can control so many things, but there are things we can’t control. 

We can’t control the weather. We can’t control how people act towards us. We can’t control night or day. We can’t control traffic, or where we are born, what our name is, what people think about us. There are loads of things we just can’t control, but we can control what we can. 

Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react. There are some things we just can’t control and some things that do happen to us that we can’t take back, but how you deal with
It afterward is our future… - Katie Piper

In life, we simply can’t control everything. We can simply control how we react to things.


"We can’t control everything that happens to us in our life, but we can control how we respond and act to the things we can’t control. "


"Don’t worry about what you can’t control. Our focus and energy needs to be on the things we CAN control - attitude, effort, focus. These things are what we CAN control" - Tim Tebow